Sexual purity begins in the mind, not the body.

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SORD Guest: IRENE

Today I met this pretty lady called IRENE. I asked her what she thought about the origin of sexual feelings. She went on to tell me from the scripture:

“As a man thinks in his heart, so is he”

(Proverbs 23:7).

“For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality . . .”

(Matthew 15:19-20).

“But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart”

(Matthew 5:28).

You will inevitably adopt the morality of the programs, movies, books, magazines, music, Internet sites and conversations you participate in.

Remember GIGO, Garbage in, garbage out; Godliness in, Godliness out.

The cognitive is basic to the behavioral; you become what you choose to feed your mind on.

    Sow a thought, reap an action;
     Sow an action, reap a habit.
     Sow a habit, reap a character.
     Sow a character, reap a destiny.

Your future can be accurately predicted by what you allow your mind to dwell on. Sinful actions don’t come out of nowhere, they are the cumulative product of little moral compromises made over time, which ultimately culminate in ungodly behavior.

There’s nothing new about sexual temptation; what’s new is how it has invaded our homes. In first century Corinth there were prostitutes all over the streets, but when you entered your home you had a sanctuary from the temptation. We live in a technological Corinth, where immorality can come into the privacy of our home through I-pads, I-phones, I- macs and airwaves (television) . Most of us are only a few push buttons away from sexual immorality of the mind. The whats app groups, the Facebook posts and many social mediums are up to raise our sexual crave.  Every choice we make to view and contemplate immorality desensitizes us to its evil.

Actions, habits, character and destiny all start with a thought, and thoughts are fostered by what we choose to take into our minds. Therefore we should take extreme care about what we feed our minds on.

”Above all else, guard your heart [mind, inner being], for it is the wellspring of life”

(Proverbs 4:23).

If someone wants to pollute water, he pollutes it at its source. If he wants to purify water, he purifies it at its source. Our thoughts are the source of our lives. All our lives flow from our mind, and through the choices we make every day we program our minds, either for godliness or ungodliness.

“Turn my eyes away from worthless things; preserve my life according to your word”

(Psalm 119:37)

Our minds are not a vacuum; they will be filled with something. It is necessary to turn our minds from the worthless, but it’s not sufficient. We also must fill our minds with good thoughts that crowd out and combat the bad ones. It’s not enough to say “don’t think about anything bad.” (If I say, “don’t think about spiders,” what do you think about?) We must also choose to think about the good. (If I say “think about your favorite dessert,” pretty soon you stop thinking about spiders.) Time in the Word, in prayer, and in conversations with Christ-centered friends reinforces our commitment to purity.

“Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure . . . think about such things”

(Philippians 4:8).

We can’t avoid every temptation, but we can avoid many of them, and we can certainly resist their attempts to take hold of us. Martin Luther said, “You can’t keep the birds from flying over your head, but you can keep them from making a nest in your hair.”

Be careful what you expose your mind to. If you’re on a diet, don’t go to Baskin & Robin’s. If you do, your resistance will break down. If you want to abstain from lust you don’t go places and watch movies and programs and read things that stimulate lust.

Your body will go where your mind allows it to. When it comes to your sexual purity, the ultimate battle is in your mind. Don’t give your mind junk food. Be sure you’re getting spiritual nutrition.

Giving Virginity to a Man doesn’t Make him a Husband

When a girl gives her virginity to a man she is not married to, she most likely thinks that she will be that man’s idol; his only dream and priority.

But a man’s mental, sexual and emotional world don’t function that way.

A girl becomes his dream-girl only when she makes him wait for sex. He desires and dreams to make her his only when she protects him from sinning against God by protecting herself.

Some girls say to me, in owe, “Can you believe that he is a believer; and he serves in the church. How can a man like him do such a thing?”

That is a fallacy most women want to embrace, a fallacy that says “Christian Men have different sexual urges from non-Christian men.” Married women blame their husbands for desiring sex everyday, saying that if their husbands were really Christians, they wouldn’t have asked for sex that often.

Oh, may the LORD give those husbands grace to go through this.

Know this: After everything is said and done, a man who is created in the image of God desires sex in the same way whether he believes in God or not.

A man who leads a sexually pure life desires to live a one woman-man kind of life (Sarah and Abimelech); when he leads a sexually immoral lifestyle, he dives in it with his both feet (Delilah to Samson; or Potiphar’s wife to Joseph).

If you are a single girl, please listen to me. If a man takes a girl’s virginity, he only thinks himself, not her. His sexual world doesn’t work like yours. His sexual department doesn’t have sympathy when it is allowed to be wild, whether he is baptized in the Holy Spirit or not.

If he loves you, he cares for you to the point of saving you till marriage. He won’t touch you if he wants to make you his wife.

He proposed to you doesn’t mean that he’ll marry you!

“But he cried when I told him we can’t do sex before marriage.”

Really? Let him cry for the rest of his life. He is just a good actor. Most men can fake tears (well, women too, as a matter of fact). Don’t let his tears preach to you. Tell him to hit the road if sex is the one thing that guarantees his existence. You won’t lose a thing by saying “Good bye” to him except heartaches, pain and suffering.

If you already lost your virginity, leave him alone. He can’t pay you back by marrying you. Settle on this: Nothing can bring your virginity back. Move on with your life. If he comes back, most probably he comes back to continue from where he left off. So it is too risky to desire him back.

Pick up the pieces of your life and start all over again as if you were a virgin. Lead a sexually pure life and you shall test the power of God’s mercy and grace in your life. A man desires to have you, above all virgin girls in the city, because you first attracted God to your life by your sexually pure life.

Read the Book of Ruth. She was married to a man. Well, you don’t want me to tell you that she was not a virgin, do you? Well, I don’t think so. She was sleeping with her husband but her husband died.

But, Beloved, Ruth stole the heart of a famous, rich Bachelor who was a dream man of every virgin girl in a city.

Yes, there is what is called “Secondary virginity” which comes to you with a repentant lifestyle.

And one last note: Just because the man who dis-virgin you comes back to your life doesn’t mean that you are sexually pure. You will be sexually pure only when you lead a life that is sexually pure, with him or without him.And that is only found in Christ.

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Sexual Purity

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FOCUS ON THE TRUTH OF TRUE SEXUAL LIFE

Defining sexual purity demands point of reference or a standard against which to determine purity or impurity (or immorality).  So Appeal for Purity uses only Bible, the Word of God, to define sexual purity.  In the Gospel of Matthew chapter 5, we find very intriguing definition of sexual purity Jesus made.

“But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28

Losing virginity, sleeping with a person only once or twice is not the question here.  The ball of purity drops and touches the ground when one’s heart being enticed by the thought of having sex with someone they are not married to.  So, purity or immorality is not all about a physical action but a condition of one’s heart.

Jesus reckons His people above and beyond the written law that says “You shall not commit adultery” but goes ahead of the game by addressing the issue of the heart.  If one sets on doing something in his/her heart, it is a matter of time before what is conceived in the heart comes out as action.

That is why the Bible says:

“Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23

Once a mind and a heart of a person are allowed a thought to linger, body won’t have any strength, authority and power to refuse to express it in action.  It is not the body that needs instruction but the heart and mind of a person.

Paul says this:

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”     Romans 12:2

If one’s mind and heart refused for a thought to linger, the body can’t act it out by its own.  The body needs approval of a heart and a mind for it to accomplish the action whether it be good or bad things.  What a body tends to do it in a continuous pattern identifies what a person really believes and embraces in her/his heart.  Either way, what captivates the heart and mind of the person wins the full participation of the body to express it in action, in a continuous pattern.

Praying, and reading and meditating the Word of God (Bible) is then the only way to captivate the heart and mind for the message of sexual purity.

One Truth worth Noticing

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Sexual immorality seems to be the number one sin to catch us all off-guard more times than the other sins. There can be many reasons for it but the one reason that comes to my mind is this: We are prone to sexual sin because we are sexual beings!

You see, we are not naturally created to kill; or to steal. We are not fashioned by God to go around and drink somebody else’s blood. No, we are not.

But we are created and fashioned by God to be sexual beings, so that we have all we need to have sex.

That by itself makes us all vulnerable to fall into sexual sin. But knowing that fact shouldn’t encourage us all to say, “Oh, well, here we go again; Let me jump in it because it is meant to be like this” because as we are created to be sexual beings, do you know that we are also originally created to be sexually pure beings?

Yes, we are created for sexual purity not for sexual immorality. That is why our whole life gets disrupted when we miss the mark of purity. When we turn to sexual impurity, our mind, soul, spirit can’t get anything right. They all get misaligned and we try everything to calm them down but nothing can clam them all down but sexual purity because we are created for sexual purity. Our nature is ONLY COMPATIBLE WITH SEXUAL PURITY because we are created in God’s likeness and image which is always and only compatible with holiness and purity.

The image we may seem to lost it because of Adam is ours through Christ Jesus. His grace and spirit are with us to bring that likeness and image back to us.

“For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son”

(Romans 8:29a )

Did you hear that?

Listen what Jesus is saying to you and me:

“Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with Me.”

(Revelation 3:20)

Isn’t that beautiful! Jesus is inviting you and I to the ONENESS of holiness; so that we take His image and likeness!

He is calling you through this post!

Don’t wait until you get it all right because you will never get it right without Jesus.

Will you respond to Him? Will you open the door of your heart for Jesus to come in? Do you take Him in? Do you receive Him into your life and make Him the LORD and King of your sexual life which is the ligament that holds all your other life areas?

If your response is “Yes,” inbox me and I will contact you so that we can pray together.

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